Aug 5, 2010

Dear Julie: I’m Sleeping with My Husband’s Brother





I need to get something off my chest. I can’t talk to my friends or family about this but I’m between a rock and a hard place. I’ve been with husband for 10 years.

Me and my husband have been having problems for the last 2 years because he’s been going out of town for work a lot and I don’t trust that he’s all business and no play while he’s away.

While he was on the road, my husband’s brother who is also married with older kids would come by and pick up my oldest son and take him to get a haircut or bowling or to the basketball court.

He was basically doing all the manly things my husband doesn’t do. Him and my husband are like night and day.

For the longest time his brother and I didn’t get along and we constantly bickered back and forth but the more my husband traveled the closer we became.

His jealousy went through the roof when I backed his brother and told him that I appreciated that he makes the time to do these kind of things with our sons.

The next week when my husband left town his brother called and asked if it was okay to come and get my sons to take them putt-putting and asked if I wanted to come along and I did.

We had a good time and we came back to my house and I cooked dinner for all of us, the kids ate and fell asleep.

I had a few glasses of wine and he had a few beers and the next thing I know we’re on the kitchen floor having the best sex I’ve had in years.


I felt horrible about it and thought it was a one time ordeal and was scared to face my husband when he came home.

For about a month I avoided all his brother’s phone calls and didn’t want anything to do with him.

Within a few weeks my husband had made arrangements for him to make use of some of our lawn equipment that we don’t use and he came to pick it up.

I opened the garage door so he could get what he needed and leave and he came in the house to let me know he was leaving and I said okay thanks but he closed the door behind him and starting kissing me and once again we had sex.

I can’t resist him and we’ve slept together 4 times since then. I can’t go on this way. I’m constantly paranoid that they might argue and his brother will go off and tell him that we’ve been sleeping together.

Every time my husband calls my heart races thinking that he knows and he’s caught wind of it.

I don’t know what to do because I don’t want to leave him but I’ve developed feelings for his brother. Please tell me what to do.


Mmmmh Im not good in advising, I might sound crazy coz some parts zimenivutia, I cant real say niko upande gani katika hili, but i decided to post it and keep it here forever in case of anything

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